This page will contain wikis about love, as they become available.LoveIt has been suggested that True love be merged into this article or section. (Discuss)Love has several different meanings in every language, from something that gives a little pleasure ("I loved that meal") to something one would die for (patriotism, pairbonding). It can describe an intense feeling of affection, an emotion or an emotional state. In ordinary use, it usually refers to interpersonal love. Probably due to its emotional primacy, love is one of the most common themes in art. Love might best be defined as acting intentionally, in sympathetic response to others (including God), to promote overall well-being. Or to put simply, love responds intentionally to promote well-being (Thomas Jay Oord). Love is inherent in all human cultures and thus may be seen as a defining trait of humanity, that is, love is a quality that makes one human. It is precisely these cultural differences that make any universal definition of love difficult, but not impossible, to establish. See the Sapir-Whorf hypothesis. Expressions of love may include the love for a soul or mind, the love of laws and organizations, love for a body, love for nature, love of food, love of money, love for learning, love of power, love of fame, love for the respect of others, etcetera. Different people place varying degrees of importance on the kinds of love they receive. Love is essentially an abstract concept, easier to experience than to explain. Impersonal loveErosMythological God and symbol of love A person can be said to love a country, principle, or goal if they value it greatly and are deeply committed to it. Similarly, compassionate outreach and volunteer workers' 'love' of their cause may be born not of interpersonal love, but impersonal love coupled with altruism and strong political convictions. People can also 'love' material objects, animals, or activities if they invest themselves in bonding their identity with that item. (ex: "I love cheese.") In some cases there may be an erotic component to such feeling of love. If that desire reaches the point of being acted out, it may be considered unhealthy, and fall under the category of paraphilia. Religious loveWhether religious love can be expressed in similar terms to interpersonal love is a matter for philosophical debate. Religious 'love' might be considered a euphemistic term, more closely describing feelings of deference or acquiescence. Most religions use the term love to express the devotion the follower has to their deity, who may be a living guru or religious teacher. This love can be expressed by prayer, service, good deeds, and personal sacrifice. Reciprocally, the followers may believe that the deity loves the followers and all of creation. Some traditions encourage the development of passionate love in the believer for the deity. Refer to Religious Views below. Scientific modelsSwans forming a heart shape, the shape a common symbol for love.Biological models of love tend to see it as a mammalian drive, just like hunger or thirst. Psychology sees love as more of a social and cultural phenomenon. There are probably elements of truth in both views — certainly love is influenced by hormones (such as oxytocin) and pheromones, and how people think and behave in love is influenced by their conceptions of love. Attraction and attachmentThe conventional view in biology is that there are two major drives in love — sexual attraction and attachment. Attachment between adults is presumed to work on the same principles that lead an infant to become attached to his or her mother or father. Companionate vs. passionateThe traditional psychological view sees love as being a combination of companionate love and passionate love. Passionate love is intense longing, and is often accompanied by physiological arousal (shortness of breath, rapid heart rate). Companionate love is affection and a feeling of intimacy not accompanied by physiological arousal. Sternberg's Triangular Theory of LoveIt has been suggested that triangular theory of love be merged into this article or section. (Discuss)In psychologist Robert Sternberg's triangular theory of love, love is characterized by three elements: intimacy, passion and commitment. Each of these elements can be present in a relationship, producing the following combinations:
Love stylesSusan Hendrick and Clyde Hendrick developed a Loves Attitude Scale based on John Alan Lee's theory called Love styles. Lee identified six basic theories that people use in their interpersonal relationships:
The Hendricks found men tend to be more ludic and manic, whereas women tend to be storgic and pragmatic. Relationships based on similar love styles were found to last longer. PhasesHelen Fisher suggests three main phases of love: lust, attraction, and attachment. Generally love will start off in the lust phase, strong in passion but weak in the other elements. The primary motivator at this stage is the basic sexual instinct. Appearance, smells, and other similar factors play a decisive role in screening potential mates. However, as time passes, the other elements may grow and passion may shrink — this depends upon the individual. So what starts as infatuation or empty love may well develop into one of the fuller types of love. At the attraction stage the person concentrates their affection on a single mate and fidelity becomes important. Likewise, when a person has known a loved one for a long time, they develop a deeper attachment to their partner. According to current scientific understanding of love, this transition from the attraction to the attachment phase usually happens in about 30 months. After that time, the passion fades, changing love from consummate to companionate, or from romantic love to liking. 'Sacred Love versus Profane Love' by Giovanni BaglioneCultural viewsChineseIn contemporary Chinese language and culture, several terms or root words are used for the concept of "love":
In Confucianism, lian is a virtuous benevolent love. Lian should be pursued by all human beings, and reflects a moral life. The Chinese philosopher Mozi developed the concept of ai (愛) in reaction to Confucian lian. Ai, in Mohism, is universal love towards all beings, not just towards friends or family, without regard to reciprocation. Extravagance and offensive war are inimical to ai. Although Mozi's thought was influential, the Confucian lian is how most Chinese conceive of love. Gănqíng (感情), the feeling of a relationship. A person will express love by building good gănqíng, accomplished through helping or working for another. Emotional attachment toward another person or anything. Yuanfen (緣份) is a connection of bound destinies. A meaningful relationship is often conceived of as dependent strong yuanfen. It is very similar to serendipity. A similar conceptualization in English is, "They were made for each other," "fate," or "destiny". Zaolian (Simplified: 早恋, Traditional: 早戀, pinyin: zǎoliàn), literally, "early love," is a contemporary term in frequent use for romantic feelings or attachments among children or adolescents. Zaolian describes both relationships among a teenaged boyfriend and girlfriend, as well as the "crushes" of early adolescence or childhood. The concept essentially indicates a prevalent belief in contemporary Chinese culture that due to the demands of their studies (especially true in the highly competitive educational system of China), youth should not form romantic attachments lest they jeopardize their chances for success in the future. Reports have appeared in Chinese newspapers and other media detailing the prevalence of the phenomenon and its perceived dangers to students and the fears of parents. JapaneseIn Japanese Buddhism, ai (愛) is passionate caring love, and a fundamental desire. It can develop towards either selfishness or selflessness and enlightenment. Amae (甘え), a Japanese word meaning "indulgent dependence", is part of the child-rearing culture of Japan. Japanese mothers are expected to hug and indulge their children, and children are expected to reward their mothers by clinging and serving. Some sociologists (most notably, Takeo Doi) have suggested that Japanese social interactions in later life are modeled on the mother-child amae. Linguistically, the two most common words for love are ai (愛)and koi (恋). Generally speaking, most forms of non-romantic love are expressed using the former, while romantic love is expressed using the latter. "Parental love", for example, is oya no ai (親の愛), while "to be in love with" is koi suru (恋する). There are of course exceptions. The word aijin (愛人) means "lover" and implies an illicit, often extra-marital relationship, whereas koibito (恋人) has the connotation of "boyfriend", "girlfriend", or "partner". In everyday conversation, however, ai (愛) and koi (恋) are rarely used. Rather than using ai shiteiru (愛している) or koi shiteiru (恋している) to say "I love you", for example, most Japanese would say suki desu (好きです), which literally means "I like you" -- suki (好き) being the same word used to express preferences for food, music, etc., as in sushi ga suki desu (寿司が好きです), or "I like sushi." Rather than diluting the sentiment, however, the implied meaning of "love" is understood. Ancient GreekGreek distinguishes several different senses in which the word love is used. For example, ancient Greek has the words philia, eros, agape, storge and xenia. However, with Greek as with many other languages, it has been historically difficult to separate the meanings of these words totally. At the same time the ancient Greek text of the Bible has examples of the verb agapo being used with the same meaning as phileo. Agape (ἀγάπη agápē) means love in modern day Greek. The term s'agapo means I love you in Greek. The word agapo is the verb I love. It generally refers to a "pure", ideal type of love rather than the physical attraction suggested by eros. However, there are some examples of agape used to mean the same as eros. It has also been translated as "love of the soul". Eros (ἔρως érōs) is passionate love, with sensual desire and longing. The Greek word erota means in love. Plato refined his own definition. Although eros is initially felt for a person, with contemplation it becomes an appreciation of the beauty within that person, or even becomes appreciation of beauty itself. Eros helps the soul recall knowledge of beauty, and contributes to an understanding of spiritual truth. Lovers and philosophers are all inspired to seek truth by eros. Some translations list it as "love of the body". Philia (φιλία philía), means friendship in modern Greek, a dispassionate virtuous love, was a concept developed by Aristotle. It includes loyalty to friends, family, and community, and requires virtue, equality and familiarity. Philia is motivated by practical reasons; one or both of the parties benefit from the relationship. Storge (στοργή storgē) means affection in modern Greek; it is natural affection, like that felt by parents for offspring. Xenia (ξενία philoxenía), means hospitality in modern Greek, was an extremely important practice in ancient Greece. It was an almost ritualized friendship formed between a host and their guest, who could previously be strangers. The host fed and provided quarters for the guest, who was only expected to repay with gratitude. The importance of this can be seen throughout Greek mythology, in particular Homer's Iliad and Odyssey. LatinThe Latin language has several different verbs corresponding to the English word 'love'. Amare is the basic word for to love, as it still is in Italian today. The Romans used it both in an affectionate sense, as well as in a Romantic or sexual sense. From this verb come amans, a lover, amator, 'professional lover', often with the accessory notion of lechery, and amica, 'girlfriend' in the English sense, often as well being applied euphemistically to a prostitute. The corresponding noun is amor, which is also used in the plural form to indicate 'love affairs' or 'sexual adventures'. This same root also produces amicus, 'friend', and amicitia, 'friendship' (often based on mutual advantage, and corresponding sometimes more closely to 'indebtedness' or 'influence'). Cicero wrote a treatise called On Friendship (de Amicitia) which discusses the notion at some length. Ovid wrote a guide to dating called Ars Amatoria (The Art of Lovers), which addresses in depth everything from extramarital affairs to overprotective parents. Complicating the picture somewhat, Latin sometimes uses amare where English would simply say to like; this notion, however, is much more generally expressed in Latin by placere or delectare, which are used more colloquially, and the latter of which is used frequently in the love poetry of Catullus. Diligere often has the notion 'to be affectionate for', 'to esteem', and rarely if ever is used of romantic love. This word would be appropriate to describe the friendship of two men. The corresponding noun diligentia, however, has the meaning 'diligence' 'carefulness' and has little semantic overlap with the verb. Observare is a synonym for 'diligere'; despite the cognate with English, this verb and its corresponding noun 'observantia' often denote 'esteem' or 'affection'. Caritas is used in Latin translations of the Christian Bible to mean 'charitable love'. This meaning, however, is not found in Classical pagan Roman literature. As it arises from a conflation with a Greek word, there is no corresponding verb. Indonesian and MalaysianIn Indonesian and Malaysian linguistics perspective, love can be defined in several ways: Cinta is a word that defines lust or love that involves physical attraction. Jatuh cinta literally means falling in love: the initial action that triggers love. Sayang is a word to express unconditional love, but also to express deep regret in losing something. Religious viewsBuddhistIn Buddhism, Kāma is sensuous, sexual love. It is an obstacle on the path to enlightenment, since it is selfish. Karunā is compassion and mercy, which reduces the suffering of others. It is complementary to wisdom, and is necessary for enlightenment. Advesa and maitrī are benevolent love. This love is unconditional and requires considerable self-acceptance. This is quite different from the ordinary love, which is usually about attachment and sex, which rarely occur without self-interest. Instead, in Buddhism it refers to detachment and unselfish interest in others' welfare. The Bodhisattva ideal in Tibetan Buddhism involves the complete renunciation of oneself in order to take on the burden of a suffering world. The strongest motivation one has in order to take the path of the Bodhisattva is the idea of salvation within unselfish love for others. ChristianThere are several Greek words for Love that are regularly referred to in Christian circles.
C.S. Lewis, an influential Christian theologian, wrote a book called The Four Loves. Christians believe that to love God with all your heart, mind, and strength and Love your neighbour as yourself are the two most important things in life (the greatest commandment of God, according to Jesus). See The Gospel of Mark chapter 12, verses 28-34). Saint Augustine summarised this when he wrote "Love God, and do as thou wilt". Saint Paul glorified agape love as the most important virtue of all in 1 Corinthians, chapter 13. Attempting to define it he wrote, "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, and always perseveres. Love never fails."(NIV 13:4-8) Christians also believe that God felt so much agape love for man that he sacrificed his son for them. John the Apostle wrote, "For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but the save the world through him." (NIV John 3:16-17) Many Christian theologians see God as the source of love, which is mirrored in humans and their relationships. HinduIn Hinduism kāma is pleasurable, sexual love, personified by the god Kama. For many Hindu schools it is the third end in life (artha). In contrast to kāma, prema or prem refers to elevated love. Karuna is compassion and mercy, which reduces the suffering of others. Bhakti is a Sanskrit term from Hinduism meaning 'loving devotion to the supreme God'. A person who practices bhakti is called bhakta. Hindu writers, theologians, and philosophers have distinguished nine forms of devotion that they call bhakti, for example in the Bhagavatha-Purana and according to Tulsidas. The booklet Narada bhakti sutra written by an unknown author distinguishes eleven forms of love. IslamicIn a sense, love does encompass the Islamic view of life as universal brotherhood which applies to all who hold the faith. There are no direct references stating that God is love, but amongst the 99 names of God (Allah), there is the name Al-Wadud or 'the Loving One', which is found in Surah 11:90 as well as Surah 85:14. It refers to God as being "full of loving kindness". In Islam, love is more often than not used as an incentive for sinners to aspire to be as worthy of God's love as they may. One still has God's love, but how the person evaluates his own worth is to his own and God's own counsel. All who hold the faith have God's love, but to what degree or effort he has pleased God depends on the individual itself. Ishq, or divine love, is the emphasis of Sufism. Sufis believe that love is a projection of the essence of God to the universe. God desires to recognize beauty, and as if one looks at a mirror to see oneself, God "looks" at itself within the dynamics of nature. Since everything is a reflection of God, the school of Sufism practices to see the beauty inside the apparently ugly. Sufism is oftentimes referred to as the religion of Love. God in Sufism is referred to in three main terms which are the Lover, Loved, and Beloved with the last of these terms being often seen in Sufi poetry. A common viewpoint of Sufism is that through Love humankind can get back to its inherent purity and grace. JewishIn Hebrew Ahava is the most commonly used term for both interpersonal love and love of God. Other related but dissimilar terms are Chen (grace) and Hesed, which basically combines the meaning of "affection" and "compassion" and is sometimes rendered in English as "loving-kindness". Judaism employs a wide definition of love, both between people and between man and the Deity. As for the former, the Torah states: "Love your neighbor like yourself" (Leviticus 19:18). As for the latter, one is commanded to love God "with all your heart, with all your soul and with all your might" (Deuteronomy 6:5), taken by the Mishnah (a central text of the Jewish oral law) to refer to good deeds, willingness to sacrifice one's life rather than commit certain serious transgressions, willingness to sacrifice all one's possessions and being grateful to the Lord despite adversity (tractate Berachoth 9:5). Rabbinic literature differs how this love can be developed, e.g. by contemplating Divine deeds or witnessing the marvels of nature. As for love between marital partners, this is deemed an essential ingredient to life: "See life with the wife you love" (Ecclesiastes 9:9). The Biblical book Song of Songs is a considered a romantically-phrased metaphor of love between God and his people, but in its plain reading reads like a love song. The 20th-century rabbi Eliyahu Eliezer Dessler is frequently quoted as defining love from the Jewish point-of-view as "giving without expecting to take" (from his Michtav me-Eliyahu, vol. I). Romantic love per se has few echoes in Jewish literature, although the medieval rabbi Judah Halevi wrote romantic poetry in Arabic in his younger years (he appears to have regretted this later). MythologicalDifferent cultures have deified love, typically in both male and female form. Here is a list of the gods and goddesses of love in different mythologies.
TheologicalEven though in monotheistic religions, the God is considered to represent love, there are often angels or similar beings that represent love as well.
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Even though in monotheistic religions, the God is considered to represent love, there are often angels or similar beings that represent love as well. Rutinas is the first single. Here is a list of the gods and goddesses of love in different mythologies. “Nada es igual" it's not only a sample of her musical evolution, but also of her new personal challenge. Different cultures have deified love, typically in both male and female form. In this pop-rock CD we find a new direction in Chenoa’s music, as it has been produced by Dado Parisini (Laura Pausini, Nek, Tears for Fears), and recorded in Milan. Romantic love per se has few echoes in Jewish literature, although the medieval rabbi Judah Halevi wrote romantic poetry in Arabic in his younger years (he appears to have regretted this later). November was the month chosen for the release of Chenoa's third studio album "Nada es igual". I). Venezuela has also awarded Chenoa in 2005 with the Mara de Oro 2005 to the best new international artist of the year. The 20th-century rabbi Eliyahu Eliezer Dessler is frequently quoted as defining love from the Jewish point-of-view as "giving without expecting to take" (from his Michtav me-Eliyahu, vol. In April 2005 the Spanish Radio and Television Associations Federation awarded her the Micrófono de Oro 2005. The Biblical book Song of Songs is a considered a romantically-phrased metaphor of love between God and his people, but in its plain reading reads like a love song. In December she visited Panama, Costa Rica, Dominican Republic and Venezuela. As for love between marital partners, this is deemed an essential ingredient to life: "See life with the wife you love" (Ecclesiastes 9:9). In May and June 2004 she started “Soy Mujer” promotional tour around Venezuela, Puerto Rico and Argentina. by contemplating Divine deeds or witnessing the marvels of nature. In 2004 she was nominated for the Tu Música award as best new artist, in Puerto Rico. Rabbinic literature differs how this love can be developed, e.g. Chenoa was nominated again for the Premios Amigo award as best female artist and completed an 80-date tour in Spain. As for the latter, one is commanded to love God "with all your heart, with all your soul and with all your might" (Deuteronomy 6:5), taken by the Mishnah (a central text of the Jewish oral law) to refer to good deeds, willingness to sacrifice one's life rather than commit certain serious transgressions, willingness to sacrifice all one's possessions and being grateful to the Lord despite adversity (tractate Berachoth 9:5). En tu cruz me clavaste, Soy lo que me das, Siete Pétalos, Dame and Soy Mujer were the singles released. As for the former, the Torah states: "Love your neighbor like yourself" (Leviticus 19:18). Pop, rock, and latin, arab and anglosaxon sounds are mixed in this CD, which reached number 1 in the Spanish album chart, and sold more than 230,000 copies after 47 weeks in the Top 100. Judaism employs a wide definition of love, both between people and between man and the Deity. “Soy Mujer” was the chosen title for her second studio album, recorded in Miami and Madrid in 2003. Other related but dissimilar terms are Chen (grace) and Hesed, which basically combines the meaning of "affection" and "compassion" and is sometimes rendered in English as "loving-kindness". This CD+DVD was released on a limited edition of 100,000 copies for fans. In Hebrew Ahava is the most commonly used term for both interpersonal love and love of God. It was recorded in Barcelona in April 2003, and included some of her favorite songs, such as: Man in the mirror, Respect, Chain of fools or Love of my life. A common viewpoint of Sufism is that through Love humankind can get back to its inherent purity and grace. The unplugged album “Mis canciones favoritas” was Chenoa’s second CD. God in Sufism is referred to in three main terms which are the Lover, Loved, and Beloved with the last of these terms being often seen in Sufi poetry. Her great stage presence led her to victory. Sufism is oftentimes referred to as the religion of Love. In April 2003 Chenoa took part in Eurobest, an European song contest in which she performed "It's raining men”. Since everything is a reflection of God, the school of Sufism practices to see the beauty inside the apparently ugly. Year 2002 finished with a Spanish tour that included more than 70 dates. God desires to recognize beauty, and as if one looks at a mirror to see oneself, God "looks" at itself within the dynamics of nature. “Chenoa” sold over 500,000 copies in Spain after 61 weeks in Top 100 chart, and she was nominated for the Spanish music industry awards Premios Amigo as best female new artist, and best female artist. Sufis believe that love is a projection of the essence of God to the universe. The first single was Atrévete, a song whose English version is also included in the album as Mystify, but the greatest hit of this CD was Cuando tu vas, danced all over Spain in the summer of '02. Ishq, or divine love, is the emphasis of Sufism. Her first album was “Chenoa”, released in April 2002 in Spain. All who hold the faith have God's love, but to what degree or effort he has pleased God depends on the individual itself. Chenoa adquired there a good stage presence before entering the first edition of the Spanish TV show Operación Triunfo in 2001. One still has God's love, but how the person evaluates his own worth is to his own and God's own counsel. She graduated as a teacher in nursery school, and started performing in the Casino de Mallorca shows when she was 20. In Islam, love is more often than not used as an incentive for sinners to aspire to be as worthy of God's love as they may. Her mother fell ill and Chenoa had to stand in for her. It refers to God as being "full of loving kindness". At the age of 16, Chenoa began to sing professionally taking part in her parent's show. There are no direct references stating that God is love, but amongst the 99 names of God (Allah), there is the name Al-Wadud or 'the Loving One', which is found in Surah 11:90 as well as Surah 85:14. Her parents were both musicians and they used to work in hotels as singers in live music shows, so Chenoa has lived and breathed music since birth. In a sense, love does encompass the Islamic view of life as universal brotherhood which applies to all who hold the faith. Chenoa was born in Mar de Plata (Argentina) on June 25, 1975, although her family moved to Spain when she was 8. The booklet Narada bhakti sutra written by an unknown author distinguishes eleven forms of love. . Hindu writers, theologians, and philosophers have distinguished nine forms of devotion that they call bhakti, for example in the Bhagavatha-Purana and according to Tulsidas. In 2005, her song Rutinas (Routines) from her new album released in Nov 2005 reached number 4 on its first week, which is a great achievement. A person who practices bhakti is called bhakta. In 2004, her song Dame topped the Spanish charts for three weeks. Bhakti is a Sanskrit term from Hinduism meaning 'loving devotion to the supreme God'. Chenoa has still been going strong in the Spanish Charts, although most other reality TV show stars die out soon after. Karuna is compassion and mercy, which reduces the suffering of others. Although her albums are not readily availible in the US record shelves as they are in Spain, you can find them on the Internet. In contrast to kāma, prema or prem refers to elevated love. Most of her music is in Spanish, although a few tracks on each album were recorded in English. For many Hindu schools it is the third end in life (artha). Her music style could be described in the United States mostly as "pop". In Hinduism kāma is pleasurable, sexual love, personified by the god Kama. María Laura Corradini popularly known as Chenoa (born June 25, 1975 in Mar del Plata, Argentina) is one of the most famous female music artists in Spain. Many Christian theologians see God as the source of love, which is mirrored in humans and their relationships. 2006 (TBA). For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but the save the world through him." (NIV John 3:16-17). 2005 "Rutinas" - (TBA). John the Apostle wrote, "For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. 2004 "Dame" - #1 SP. Christians also believe that God felt so much agape love for man that he sacrificed his son for them. 2004 "Soy Lo Que Me Das" - #2 SP. Love never fails."(NIV 13:4-8). 2003 "Siete Pétalos" - #2 SP. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, and always perseveres. 2003 "En Tu Cruz Me Clavaste" - #1 SP. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 2003 "Desnuda Frente A Tí" - #5 SP. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 2002 "Cuando Tu Vas" - #1 SP. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 2002 "Atrévete (Mystify)" - #1 SP. Attempting to define it he wrote, "Love is patient, love is kind. 2005 Nada Es Igual - #3 SP. Saint Paul glorified agape love as the most important virtue of all in 1 Corinthians, chapter 13. 2003 Soy Mujer - #1 SP. Saint Augustine summarised this when he wrote "Love God, and do as thou wilt". 2003 Mis Canciones Favoritas (Unplugged Album) - #10 SP. See The Gospel of Mark chapter 12, verses 28-34). 2002 Chenoa - #1 SP. Christians believe that to love God with all your heart, mind, and strength and Love your neighbour as yourself are the two most important things in life (the greatest commandment of God, according to Jesus). Lewis, an influential Christian theologian, wrote a book called The Four Loves. C.S. There are several Greek words for Love that are regularly referred to in Christian circles. The strongest motivation one has in order to take the path of the Bodhisattva is the idea of salvation within unselfish love for others. The Bodhisattva ideal in Tibetan Buddhism involves the complete renunciation of oneself in order to take on the burden of a suffering world. Instead, in Buddhism it refers to detachment and unselfish interest in others' welfare. This is quite different from the ordinary love, which is usually about attachment and sex, which rarely occur without self-interest. This love is unconditional and requires considerable self-acceptance. Advesa and maitrī are benevolent love. It is complementary to wisdom, and is necessary for enlightenment. Karunā is compassion and mercy, which reduces the suffering of others. It is an obstacle on the path to enlightenment, since it is selfish. In Buddhism, Kāma is sensuous, sexual love. Sayang is a word to express unconditional love, but also to express deep regret in losing something. Jatuh cinta literally means falling in love: the initial action that triggers love. Cinta is a word that defines lust or love that involves physical attraction. In Indonesian and Malaysian linguistics perspective, love can be defined in several ways:. As it arises from a conflation with a Greek word, there is no corresponding verb. This meaning, however, is not found in Classical pagan Roman literature. Caritas is used in Latin translations of the Christian Bible to mean 'charitable love'. Observare is a synonym for 'diligere'; despite the cognate with English, this verb and its corresponding noun 'observantia' often denote 'esteem' or 'affection'. The corresponding noun diligentia, however, has the meaning 'diligence' 'carefulness' and has little semantic overlap with the verb. This word would be appropriate to describe the friendship of two men. Diligere often has the notion 'to be affectionate for', 'to esteem', and rarely if ever is used of romantic love. Complicating the picture somewhat, Latin sometimes uses amare where English would simply say to like; this notion, however, is much more generally expressed in Latin by placere or delectare, which are used more colloquially, and the latter of which is used frequently in the love poetry of Catullus. Ovid wrote a guide to dating called Ars Amatoria (The Art of Lovers), which addresses in depth everything from extramarital affairs to overprotective parents. Cicero wrote a treatise called On Friendship (de Amicitia) which discusses the notion at some length. This same root also produces amicus, 'friend', and amicitia, 'friendship' (often based on mutual advantage, and corresponding sometimes more closely to 'indebtedness' or 'influence'). The corresponding noun is amor, which is also used in the plural form to indicate 'love affairs' or 'sexual adventures'. From this verb come amans, a lover, amator, 'professional lover', often with the accessory notion of lechery, and amica, 'girlfriend' in the English sense, often as well being applied euphemistically to a prostitute. The Romans used it both in an affectionate sense, as well as in a Romantic or sexual sense. Amare is the basic word for to love, as it still is in Italian today. The Latin language has several different verbs corresponding to the English word 'love'. The importance of this can be seen throughout Greek mythology, in particular Homer's Iliad and Odyssey. The host fed and provided quarters for the guest, who was only expected to repay with gratitude. It was an almost ritualized friendship formed between a host and their guest, who could previously be strangers. Xenia (ξενία philoxenía), means hospitality in modern Greek, was an extremely important practice in ancient Greece. Storge (στοργή storgē) means affection in modern Greek; it is natural affection, like that felt by parents for offspring. Philia is motivated by practical reasons; one or both of the parties benefit from the relationship. It includes loyalty to friends, family, and community, and requires virtue, equality and familiarity. Philia (φιλία philía), means friendship in modern Greek, a dispassionate virtuous love, was a concept developed by Aristotle. Some translations list it as "love of the body". Lovers and philosophers are all inspired to seek truth by eros. Eros helps the soul recall knowledge of beauty, and contributes to an understanding of spiritual truth. Although eros is initially felt for a person, with contemplation it becomes an appreciation of the beauty within that person, or even becomes appreciation of beauty itself. Plato refined his own definition. The Greek word erota means in love. Eros (ἔρως érōs) is passionate love, with sensual desire and longing. It has also been translated as "love of the soul". However, there are some examples of agape used to mean the same as eros. It generally refers to a "pure", ideal type of love rather than the physical attraction suggested by eros. The word agapo is the verb I love. The term s'agapo means I love you in Greek. Agape (ἀγάπη agápē) means love in modern day Greek. At the same time the ancient Greek text of the Bible has examples of the verb agapo being used with the same meaning as phileo. However, with Greek as with many other languages, it has been historically difficult to separate the meanings of these words totally. For example, ancient Greek has the words philia, eros, agape, storge and xenia. Greek distinguishes several different senses in which the word love is used. Rather than using ai shiteiru (愛している) or koi shiteiru (恋している) to say "I love you", for example, most Japanese would say suki desu (好きです), which literally means "I like you" -- suki (好き) being the same word used to express preferences for food, music, etc., as in sushi ga suki desu (寿司が好きです), or "I like sushi." Rather than diluting the sentiment, however, the implied meaning of "love" is understood. In everyday conversation, however, ai (愛) and koi (恋) are rarely used. The word aijin (愛人) means "lover" and implies an illicit, often extra-marital relationship, whereas koibito (恋人) has the connotation of "boyfriend", "girlfriend", or "partner". There are of course exceptions. "Parental love", for example, is oya no ai (親の愛), while "to be in love with" is koi suru (恋する). Generally speaking, most forms of non-romantic love are expressed using the former, while romantic love is expressed using the latter. Linguistically, the two most common words for love are ai (愛)and koi (恋). Some sociologists (most notably, Takeo Doi) have suggested that Japanese social interactions in later life are modeled on the mother-child amae. Japanese mothers are expected to hug and indulge their children, and children are expected to reward their mothers by clinging and serving. Amae (甘え), a Japanese word meaning "indulgent dependence", is part of the child-rearing culture of Japan. It can develop towards either selfishness or selflessness and enlightenment. In Japanese Buddhism, ai (愛) is passionate caring love, and a fundamental desire. Reports have appeared in Chinese newspapers and other media detailing the prevalence of the phenomenon and its perceived dangers to students and the fears of parents. The concept essentially indicates a prevalent belief in contemporary Chinese culture that due to the demands of their studies (especially true in the highly competitive educational system of China), youth should not form romantic attachments lest they jeopardize their chances for success in the future. Zaolian describes both relationships among a teenaged boyfriend and girlfriend, as well as the "crushes" of early adolescence or childhood. Zaolian (Simplified: 早恋, Traditional: 早戀, pinyin: zǎoliàn), literally, "early love," is a contemporary term in frequent use for romantic feelings or attachments among children or adolescents. A similar conceptualization in English is, "They were made for each other," "fate," or "destiny". It is very similar to serendipity. A meaningful relationship is often conceived of as dependent strong yuanfen. Yuanfen (緣份) is a connection of bound destinies. Emotional attachment toward another person or anything. A person will express love by building good gănqíng, accomplished through helping or working for another. Gănqíng (感情), the feeling of a relationship. Although Mozi's thought was influential, the Confucian lian is how most Chinese conceive of love. Extravagance and offensive war are inimical to ai. Ai, in Mohism, is universal love towards all beings, not just towards friends or family, without regard to reciprocation. The Chinese philosopher Mozi developed the concept of ai (愛) in reaction to Confucian lian. Lian should be pursued by all human beings, and reflects a moral life. In Confucianism, lian is a virtuous benevolent love. In contemporary Chinese language and culture, several terms or root words are used for the concept of "love":. After that time, the passion fades, changing love from consummate to companionate, or from romantic love to liking. According to current scientific understanding of love, this transition from the attraction to the attachment phase usually happens in about 30 months. Likewise, when a person has known a loved one for a long time, they develop a deeper attachment to their partner. At the attraction stage the person concentrates their affection on a single mate and fidelity becomes important. So what starts as infatuation or empty love may well develop into one of the fuller types of love. However, as time passes, the other elements may grow and passion may shrink — this depends upon the individual. Appearance, smells, and other similar factors play a decisive role in screening potential mates. The primary motivator at this stage is the basic sexual instinct. Generally love will start off in the lust phase, strong in passion but weak in the other elements. Helen Fisher suggests three main phases of love: lust, attraction, and attachment. Relationships based on similar love styles were found to last longer. The Hendricks found men tend to be more ludic and manic, whereas women tend to be storgic and pragmatic. Lee identified six basic theories that people use in their interpersonal relationships:. Susan Hendrick and Clyde Hendrick developed a Loves Attitude Scale based on John Alan Lee's theory called Love styles. Each of these elements can be present in a relationship, producing the following combinations:. In psychologist Robert Sternberg's triangular theory of love, love is characterized by three elements: intimacy, passion and commitment. Companionate love is affection and a feeling of intimacy not accompanied by physiological arousal. Passionate love is intense longing, and is often accompanied by physiological arousal (shortness of breath, rapid heart rate). The traditional psychological view sees love as being a combination of companionate love and passionate love. Attachment between adults is presumed to work on the same principles that lead an infant to become attached to his or her mother or father. The conventional view in biology is that there are two major drives in love — sexual attraction and attachment. There are probably elements of truth in both views — certainly love is influenced by hormones (such as oxytocin) and pheromones, and how people think and behave in love is influenced by their conceptions of love. Psychology sees love as more of a social and cultural phenomenon. Biological models of love tend to see it as a mammalian drive, just like hunger or thirst. Refer to Religious Views below. Some traditions encourage the development of passionate love in the believer for the deity. Reciprocally, the followers may believe that the deity loves the followers and all of creation. This love can be expressed by prayer, service, good deeds, and personal sacrifice. Most religions use the term love to express the devotion the follower has to their deity, who may be a living guru or religious teacher. Religious 'love' might be considered a euphemistic term, more closely describing feelings of deference or acquiescence. Whether religious love can be expressed in similar terms to interpersonal love is a matter for philosophical debate. If that desire reaches the point of being acted out, it may be considered unhealthy, and fall under the category of paraphilia. (ex: "I love cheese.") In some cases there may be an erotic component to such feeling of love. People can also 'love' material objects, animals, or activities if they invest themselves in bonding their identity with that item. Similarly, compassionate outreach and volunteer workers' 'love' of their cause may be born not of interpersonal love, but impersonal love coupled with altruism and strong political convictions. A person can be said to love a country, principle, or goal if they value it greatly and are deeply committed to it. . Love is essentially an abstract concept, easier to experience than to explain. Different people place varying degrees of importance on the kinds of love they receive. Expressions of love may include the love for a soul or mind, the love of laws and organizations, love for a body, love for nature, love of food, love of money, love for learning, love of power, love of fame, love for the respect of others, etcetera. See the Sapir-Whorf hypothesis. It is precisely these cultural differences that make any universal definition of love difficult, but not impossible, to establish. Love is inherent in all human cultures and thus may be seen as a defining trait of humanity, that is, love is a quality that makes one human. Or to put simply, love responds intentionally to promote well-being (Thomas Jay Oord). Love might best be defined as acting intentionally, in sympathetic response to others (including God), to promote overall well-being. Probably due to its emotional primacy, love is one of the most common themes in art. In ordinary use, it usually refers to interpersonal love. It can describe an intense feeling of affection, an emotion or an emotional state. Love has several different meanings in every language, from something that gives a little pleasure ("I loved that meal") to something one would die for (patriotism, pairbonding). Mihr — angel of love in Persian mythology. Raphael — Angel of love(agape) in Judeo-Christian theology. Haniel — Angel of Venus, and of eros, in Judeo-Christian theology. Xochipilli — god in Aztec mythology. Venus — goddess of beauty and passionate love in Roman mythology. Rati — goddess of passionate love in Hindu mythology. Kama — god of sensual love in Hindu mythology. Ishtar — goddess of love and war in Babylonian mythology. Inanna — goddess of love and war in Sumerian mythology. Freya — goddess in Norse mythology. Eros — god of passionate love in Greek mythology. Astarte — goddess of love in Canaanite mythogy. Aphrodite — goddess of beauty and passionate love in Greek mythology. Aonghus or Aengus— god of beauty, youth, and sensual love in Irish mythology. Amor or Cupid — god of passionate love in Roman mythology. Áine — goddess of fertility and passionate love in Irish mythology. Two other words for love in the Greek language -- Eros (sexual love) and storge (needy child-to parent love) were never used in the New Testament. Also known as "brotherly love". Phileo - Also used in the New Testament, Phileo is a human response to something that is found to be delightful. It is parental love seen as creating goodness in the world, it is the way God is seen to love humanity, and it is seen as the kind of love that Christians aspire to have for one another. Agape - In the New Testament, agapē is charitable, selfless, altruistic, and unconditional. It is contained in the word aiqing (愛情); qingren (情人) is a term for "lover". Qing (情), commonly meaning "feeling" or "emotion," often indicates "love" in several terms. Lian (戀) is not generally used alone, but instead as part of such terms as "being in love" (談戀愛, tan lian'ai—also containing ai), "lover" (戀人, lianren) or "homosexuality" (同性戀, tongxinglian). Wo ai ni, "I love you") or as a noun, especially in aiqing (愛情), "love" or "romance." In mainland China since 1949, airen (愛人, originally "lover," or more literally, "love person") is the dominant word for "spouse" (with separate terms for "wife" and "husband" originally being de-emphasized); the word once had a negative connotation, which it retains among many on Taiwan. Ai (愛) is used as a verb (e.g. Agapē — selfless altruistic love; spiritual. Mania — highly emotional love; unstable; the stereotype of romantic love. Pragma — pragmatic love. Storge — an affectionate love that slowly develops, based on similarity. Ludus — love is played as a game; love is playful. Eros — a passionate physical love based on physical appearance. "Without expression," he warns, "even the greatest of loves can die" (1987, p.341). He stresses the importance of translating the components of love into action. Sternberg cautions that maintaining a consummate love may be even harder than achieving it. Consummate love is the most complete form of love, and it represents the ideal love relationship for which many people strive but which apparently few achieve. Consummate love is the only type of love that includes all three components--intimacy, passion and commitment. This type of love can be exemplified by a whirlwind courtship and marriage in which a commitment is motivated largely by passion, without the stabilizing influence of intimacy. Fatuous love has the passion and the commitment components but not the intimacy component. This type of love is often found in marriages in which the passion has gone out of the relationship, but a deep affection and commitment remain. Companionate love consists of intimacy and commitment. Romantic lovers are bonded emotionally (as in liking) and physically through passionate arousal. Romantic love is a combination of intimacy and passion. Empty love can also be seen in couples that are estranged but feel that they are bound by commitment. In cultures in which arranged marriages are common, relationships often begin as empty love. Sometimes, a stronger love deteriorates into empty love, in which the commitment remains, but the intimacy and passion have died. Empty love consists of the commitment component without intimacy or passion. Infatuated love consists solely of passion and is often what is felt as "love at first sight." But without the intimacy and the commitment components of love, infatuated love may disappear suddenly. Sternberg says that this intimate liking characterizes true friendships, in which a person feels a bondedness, a warmth, and a closeness with another but not intense passion or long-term commitment. In this case, liking is not used in a trivial sense. Liking includes only one of the love components - intimacy. |